In honour of Mother's Day this weekend, I thought I would share 5 Flawless lessons I have learned from my mom. Let me start this off by saying that my mom and I are very different, like I am talking worlds apart…. Probably 99% of me comes from my dad. In fact, there is a running joke in my family that the only thing I got from my mom is my gender. But I think that because of our differences, I have been able to learn so many things from my mom. So without further ado, here are 5 (of many) lessons I have learned from my lovely mother.
1. Be understanding
My mom has shown me what it means to be understanding in tough situations. I think as a mom you become the central unit of the family, which means that everyone ends up leaning on you for emotional support at some point. Not only has she shown me how to listen (a trait I was not naturally blessed with), but she has also shown me how to forgive and forget negative emotions by understanding the fear behind them. I’m sure we've all had that fight with our mom, where everything around you seems to be going wrong or changing and she's the only one around, so you start fighting. Immediately after I would always regret it, but because I am so stubborn I wouldn't be able to admit it… I was too far gone at that point. In times like that she was always understanding when I came back pretending like it was my evil twin that just blew up at her. For me this trait has always boggled me, because when I fight with someone you better believe I'm not forgetting about it for at least a week. Clearly I need to take a page from her book.
2. Care about everything and everyone around you
The next lesson I learned from my mom is simply caring about everything you do. I don't think I have ever witnessed her put anything less than 100% effort into something she is doing. When I feel fed up with something she is always there to remind me to keep pushing through. Her care is evident in everything she does, but I would say I learned the most from watching her cook. Essentially every night growing up she would cook a homemade meal, and would never take a shortcut (I’m talking everything made from scratch), no matter how fed up she was with all of us. She always does everything above and beyond what most people would do for a Tuesday night dinner. I would also like to point out that even after all of her kids moved out that she has passed this care onto making wildly nice meals for my dogs. She literally makes them scrambled eggs with flax seeds every morning… I mean that quite possibly may be the definition of EXTRA, but that's just how my mom goes through life.
3. There is more than one way to show your love
My mom has shown me that you can show your love through actions rather than always verbalizing it. Don't get me wrong my mom tells people she loves them, but she is more sparing with her words. For me I find it hard to express my feelings out loud to people, so seeing how she shows them has been really helpful for me to learn from. She shows her love through a million actions a day, so we would be here all day if I listed them all (and yeah my mom is great, but I’m sure you all have something better to do with your day). So I’m just going to give you one example, recently I moved to a new city (where I know essentially nobody), and being the amazing mom she is she helped me get settled. When it was time for her to leave, I think she could sense I was sad to see my only friend in the city leave (mind you, I was not subtle…. I had the watery puppy dog eyes going). When I came home that night she had left me a cute throw pillow and a candle to help make this new place feel like home. She does things like this on the daily, and I couldn't be more grateful because I have learned how to show I care, which in my opinion is more valuable than speaking those three words.
4. Be persistent
Simply put, my mom is an absolute force to be reckoned with. She will not take no for an answer, and will argue until she gets her way. She has shown me to be persistent and know your worth, which is admirable to see her do in a male dominated environment.
5. Unapologetically be yourself
My mom is one of the strangest, most interesting people I have ever met and I am so happy to have her as a role model. Growing up she was always supportive of creativity and letting me be who I wanted to be. She never forced me to join a club I didn't want to do, she let me quit soccer and join sewing camp (yeah you read that right…). She passed on an understanding that everyone is different and you need the freedom to explore that in your own way. She is always speaking her mind and telling silly jokes, and she lets me do the same which I am eternally thankful for.
So two closing remarks and then I’ll let you head back to your regularly scheduled programming. One, I think if we all did everything like my mom does, the world would be a Flawless place, and two, call your mother!
Maddie (from the Flawless by Friday team)